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บนเส้นทางหนังสือ (๑๔)

In the previous episode, it came to the fact that Dr. Cutler was still confused by the Dalai Lama’s explanation that deep mental development take a long time So he asked him,
“He said that there must be great enthusiasm and determination. to change the mind in a positive way But at the same time, we believe that real change is slow. take a very long time When change is slow, it can be easily discouraged. Have you ever been discouraged in your actions when the results were slow?”
“Ever, definitely.” The Dalai Lama replied
“So what did you do?” asked Dr. Cutler.
“In the practice of spiritual meditation of the ego If faced with obstacles or problems I found that it was good. If we stop to think and look at the whole thing from a distance rather than briefly looking at the specifics In this regard, there is a poem which gives encouragement and persistence:

No matter how long the sky will persist
No matter how much humanity exists
let me remain the same
to remove the sorrows of the world

“But about Tibet’s struggle for independence. If I believe in the poem above that he can wait for eternity as long as the earth collapses I will have to become a fool. Such a matter must be involved without delay. Of course, in this situation in the struggle for freedom When I thought about the 14-15 years spent in futile attempts and negotiations. Thinking of the failure of 15 years, I felt bitter. and losing patience as well, but the bitter feeling has not yet caused my ego to despair.”
Doctor Cutler wanted to make it more clear, so he asked: “But what exactly prevents you from feeling hopeless?”
“Even in the case of Tibet I think that looking at the situation from a broader perspective helps me feel better. For example, if I look at it from within Tibet from a narrow perspective. focus only on this matter The situation would then look hopeless. But if you look at it from a broader perspective from the point of view of the world I saw the international situation that the whole system of communism and totalitarianism was collapsing. Even in China there is a democratic movement. and the spirit of the Tibetan people is still high, so I do not give up hope.”
Taking into account the Dalai Lama’s strong background and training in Buddhist philosophy and meditation, it is interesting that he refers to learning and education as the first step towards self-transformation. instead of a mysterious spiritual method Although the study was recognized as important. in learning new skills and finding work But the role of education as a key factor in bringing happiness will not be ignored. Research studies have shown that Even education, which is purely academic It is related to a happy life. Numerous survey studies have shown that level of education is correlated with level of health and longevity. and prevention of depression Scientists have tried to determine the reasons for the positive effects of studies, for example, well-educated people know better about health risk factors. can have healthy behaviors have respect for one’s own potential have more life skills There are more strategies for coping. All of these make good health and happiness. It is still beneficial to a happy life. How much more useful will it be to learn and study according to the Dalai Lama? Education that is specifically intended to be understood and practiced. about the factors that will make life permanently happy
The next step in the Dalai Lama’s path to change for the better is the creation of “integrity and enthusiasm”. one by an educational psychologist named Benja
Minbloom from examining the lives of successful people in America. who are artists, athletes and scientists He found that effort and determination It’s more of a success factor than intelligence. Likewise, this principle should be applicable to creating happiness.
Behavioral science scientists have done a great deal of research into what drives humans to continually initiate and act what they call “the surgeon’s energy”. There are three types of human driving forces, the first being called primary driving forces. This is caused by biological necessities for survival, such as the need for food, water, and air. Another driving force is the need for stimulation and information. Researchers have hypothesized that this is the natural necessity of life for the nervous system to develop and function Another driving force is called Secondary driving force arising from learning This secondary driving force stems from the need for success. power or status This level of driving force is influenced by social factors. and take shape from learning It is here that modern psychology theory Meet the Dalai Lama’s thoughts on creation. “Intense determination but in the system of the Dalai Lama, the power of dynamism and strong will is not used for mere mundane success. Rather, it is used for real happiness and higher goals, such as in benevolence and spiritual development.
“Perseverance” It is the final impulse in bringing about change. The Dalai Lama found effort to be a key factor in the formation of new conditions. The idea that we can change negative behaviors and thoughts. By creating a new condition In addition to the ideas of Western psychologists. It is also the cornerstone of behavioral healing. The remedy for negative behavior is based on the theory of who is what. because he has learned to be like that by creating a new state Behavioral remedies work for a variety of problems. widely
Although heredity plays a part in determining how humans react to problems and the environment. But social scientists and psychologists feel that social and environmental factors are more important to feelings and behaviors. These are caused by the way of nurturing and the social surroundings. to make it a habit Thus, the Dalai Lama thought that bad behavior could be modified by reducing negative conditions. and add a positive state that is you in life
Constant efforts to change our external behavior will not only help us overcome bad habits. But it can cause changes in attitudes and thoughts. Experiments have shown that it’s not just attitudes that determine behavior. But behavior can also change attitudes. Researchers have found that even faking a frown Or pretend to smile to induce anger or a happy mood. This suggests that repetitive positive behaviors can produce real internal changes. This may therefore be important in the way of the Dalai Lama in creating a happy life. by helping others on a regular basis Even at the beginning we will not feel any kindness or compassion. But when you do it often, there will be a change inside and it can become a true kindness.

realistic expectations
In bringing about true internal change, the Dalai Lama emphasized the importance of continuous endeavors. It’s a gradual process. This is the opposite of the method “Quick” prevalent in the west
The Dalai Lama emphasizes how to slowly grow to maturity. He believed in great spiritual power. to practice systematically practice meditation It is a mind that requires years of experience. and be reasonable Just as negative behaviors and habits take a long time to emerge. It takes just as long to come up with new habits that lead to happiness, so there are no shortcuts to building a strong will and short effort. This is the secret to achieving happiness.
when starting to walk on the path of change Must set realistic expectations. If our expectations are too high We will meet with disappointment. If it’s too low, it won’t challenge us to use our full potential. After discussing the process of change, the Dalai Lama explained:
“You must never forget the importance of having a realistic attitude. By taking into account the reality of your own situation as you progress towards your goals. One must recognize the difficulty on the road and the fact that it takes time and relentless effort. There must be a distinction between ideals and standards by which you judge your progress. As Buddhists, one might set an ideal that eventually we will attain enlightenment. The highest hopes for enlightenment are not extremes. But the hope of achieving that goal here and now is extreme. Using ideals as a standard would be discouraging. and in despair when unable to attain enlightenment immediately Therefore, it must be operated realistically. on the other side If you say that you are only interested in specific subjects. Not caring about attaining Buddhahood in the future is another extreme. We need a middle path between the two extremes.
“Maintaining expectations accordingly is difficult to fit. If you expect too much without foundation That leads to problems. on the other side If there is no expectation or hope Without inspiration there is no progress. having important hope Finding a balance is not an easy decision based on realistic situations.”
Doctor Cutler was still skeptical. Although we may be able to improve some of our negative behavior and attitudes. If given enough time and effort But how much can we get rid of our negative emotions? So he asked the Dalai Lama, “We have mentioned that attaining happiness depends on the elimination of these negative behaviors and states of mind, such as anger, stress, greed…”
The Dalai Lama nodded.
“But those bad moods are the nature of the human mind. All humans have these bad moods, more or less. If so, would that make sense? that we are going to hate or deny or fighting with our own sector It looks inappropriate or not natural at all. to try to eradicate what is naturally within us.”
The Dalai Lama shook his head and replied, “Yes, some people who are of the opinion that anger, hatred and other negative emotions It was the nature of the mind and he felt that When it’s natural in the mind And there’s no way to change it. This is an inaccurate opinion, for example, we are all born ignorant of nature. in this sense ignorance is natural when we were young We do not know anything But when we grow up we learn every day gain knowledge and remove ignorance If we leave ignorance to nature without learning We cannot eliminate ignorance. If we leave ourselves in nature without trying to eliminate ignorance. The power to learn will not come by itself. in the same way by proper training we can gradually It can reduce negative emotions and increase your mental state of being kind, loving, compassionate, and forgiving.”
“But these are part of our mind. How do we accomplish this in the fight against something that is part of ourselves?”
“To think of fighting with one’s own negative emotions If we know how the mind works That would be helpful. The Dalai Lama replied, “The human mind is very complex, but the mind is highly skilled. The mind is able to seek different paths. to deal with different situations For one thing, the mind is able to adjust its perspective to solve problems.
“In the Buddhist way, the mind’s ability to adjust its perspective is used in meditation where, mentally, you can separate your own matters for discussion, for example, to pray to encourage your mind to do good. By doing the mental action to have a conversation between one’s own selfish mind. with the mind that is practicing the Dharma This is the separation of the mind to talk to oneself. Likewise, negative factors such as hatred and anger are part of your mind. You might try to capture your anger. Self-hatred comes as an opponent.
“Furthermore, in your daily experience often There will be situations where you blame or criticize yourself, for example, ‘Oh, I was so low that day’ and then you criticize or blame yourself for doing something wrong. or feeling angry with yourself This is the same way that you can talk to yourself. In fact, not two of them were clearly separated from each other. They are the only people who are connected to each other. But it’s important to be self-critical or angry with yourself. This is something everyone already knows.
“So, in fact only one person But you may have two different views. When you’re criticizing yourself, what happens? The self who is acting criticism comes from your wholeness. But the side that is being criticized is who is from a specific point of view. specific experiences or specific events You may see the relationship between yourself and yourself. (in two different perspectives in one person)
“If to expand on this issue It might help to make it easier to understand. If you think about what is called identity from multiple perspectives. Let’s use a Tibetan monk as an example. One of his personal identities is that he is a monk. I am a monk. His other identities are Tibetan. ‘I as a Tibetan’ but another level of identity that is not a monk not Tibetan he might think ‘I as a human being’ This can be seen that A person’s personal identity can take many perspectives.

“This tells us that when we relate to something We may view the phenomenon from many perspectives. being able to see things from many perspectives allowing us to choose a point of view This is very important when we want to remove something that is bad in us and increase something that is you higher. The ability to have multiple perspectives allows us to separate our bad parts into consideration to eliminate them.
“In this regard, an important question arises. Even if we are at war with anger and hate or other bad mental states Is there any guarantee that we will overcome it?
“When talking about the negative state of the mind Ego refers to what the Tibetan way calls. Nyong looked or something that affects the mind from within or deceit or deceit When Nieyoung looked at it, his mind rippled. disturbed peace of mind This disturbing thing is hard to beat. This is how we can successfully develop our spirituality.
“On what basis can we get rid of the disturbances? In the Buddhist way, there are three fundamentals, namely…”

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